Hey I'm new to being bisexual. I'm a 27 y o cisgender male married to my wife. I'm starting to be honest with myself that I crave to have sex with a man, but I want to remain faithful in my marriage. Help!

  1. It's something we all struggle with in some manner. Being 100% honest with yourself and your wife is the only way you'll get to a happy compromise. Communication is 100% key. Good luck OP. All the best.

  2. First step, talk to your wife about it: mention that you've been feeling unsettled in your sexuality, and that you believe you might be bisexual... Dispel the myths but don't claim you aren't attracted to anyone else. You can reassure her that you want to stay together, and have no intention to cheat. See how she reacts, and let her get comfortable with those facts before inquiring about Ethical Non-monogamy (ENM), and asking her to research the prospect with you... Whatever you decide together it should be by consensus, and equal opportunity for both of you. If the answer is 'no', you may have some tougher choices to make.

  3. I think we might have done something like ENM where she gave her consent for me to experiment with guys but it was a big toll on her and now I'm trying to be strictly monogamous again and it's hard 🥹

  4. You're eventually going to have to talk to your wife about it... mention the bi part first, not the wanting to fuck other dudes part. Get one bomb out of the way and comfortable before the next.

  5. So actually I did tell her 6 months ago and I asked her if I could experiment (trying sex with guys) with it, which I did openly for 4 months. She was gracious about it in the beginning but it became a big toll on her and I decided to end the experimental phase. Now I'm trying to get back to being monogamous and it's hard. Does that make sense?

  6. Tell her everything. It’s hard. Maybe she will stay, maybe she will go. But it’s better than explaining when, where and why you cheated!

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