You meet your 13 year old self, but you can only tell them 3 words. What do you say and why?

  1. In the same vein: "Booze kills you." That was the goal at 13, to drink til death. Didn't want to make it to 21. Now I'm 28. I likely won't see 30. Got sober after some hospital visits, and a few later they said sobriety is just gonna buy me a couple extra years. Rather die drunk than live sober. Send me an invoice for the therapy.

  2. My dad died 2 weeks ago tomorrow, and I did love my dad a lot, I’m almost 30 and have came to visit my family every other weekend for the past 4 or 5 years. It’s best thing I could have done for myself and my heart right now. Last summer my dad said “you’re going to miss me when I’m gone” and I’m so glad I had the chance to say “I sure will, Dad”

  3. I came here to type "HUG YOUR MOM" because she died when I was 17. I'm sorry to hear that you went through the same pain. Stay strong.

  4. Yes Kimmy California. My sister wanted to move to california near where I was living. My life was really complicated at the time and I really discouraged it. My marriage was a mess and I was afraid it would make it worse. She stayed where she was. About a year later she was killed by a drunk driver. My marriage ended. I would do literally anything to still have my sister here.

  5. I'm so sorry for your loss. I understand how you must feel responsible for her death. There's no telling what would have happened if she had moved to California though. In a parallel universe, maybe she did move near you and was killed by a drunk driver there, and you feel responsible for her death because you didn't stop her from moving. It wasn't anyone's fault except for that driver. I hope you can eventually find peace and feel less guilt, even though that's easier said than done.

  6. I work in a pediatric operating room in an area where atvs are popular. Anytime the weather is nice and the kids are out of school, the number of add on surgeries we have for atv injuries is mind boggling. 4 year old, shattered femur, atv rollover. 8 year old, broken left arm, atv roll over. 13 year old, atv ejection, emergency crani. Shattered pelvis, degloving of the leg, brain bleeds, punctured lungs... On and on and on. So much agony. So many kids. It's easily the number one cause of emergent surgery we do.

  7. I told my Dad this every single day growing up. I used to throw fits when I was a kid because I knew how bad it was for him and I had watched my grandmother die from it at 64. He's made it to 73, but he virtually immobile due to COPD.

  8. I started smoking when I was 25 like a dumb asshole and I’m only 30 and I cough up blood clots not enough to cause alarm but I’m too stressed to quit and don’t have money for the doctor even tho I pay $160 a month in health insurance

  9. This is gutting. I'm so sorry. I lost my dad when I was 12 and I worried he didn't know I loved him. I worried about it, tortured myself over it. Still-- speaking as a mom and grandma, I can assure you: she loved you very much and she definitely knew that you loved her. Kids worry. Moms know, without a doubt, that they are loved.

  10. I feel that holy shit. Here’s what I’d do: first I’d show him my college ID pic that I took at 18 years old. I’m 23 now so the image looks enough like me and him for him to understand and believer who I am. Then I’d shout slowly but as loud as I can:

  11. can... can I show them my teeth as well, my 13 year old self wouldn't give a feck what my 30 year old self says unless I give physical examples._.

  12. Thank you for putting this into 3 words. Exactly this, my father has never said anything to me that was actually in my best interest.

  13. This. My brother isn’t even 21 and he’s sitting in prison. Lost friends (they were killed). He doesn’t speak to my mom dad or our step dad. I’m all he’s got. I carry a lot of guilt and feel so small it’s a lot for me sometimes.

  14. I was gonna say "hit the gym" but... fuck. Now i want yours. My brother mixed opiates and alcohol and died years ago. Need to figure out how to word that in three words. Maybe "brother OD :insert date:"

  15. This one ☝🏽 Replace with sister tho. I dunno how I would even help tho tbh. Hindsight is always 20/20. Foresight, not so much. Hug your siblings internet folks.

  16. I lost my dad the same way. You were young. There is nothing you could have done. Her pain was too much. It didn't have anything to do with how much she loved you. Please try and always remember that.💙

  17. I've been on reddit for almost 3 years and just bought coins for the first time for you! THIS, I always thought my feelings were invalid and "people have it worse" etc.

  18. Yes! Not because my teeth are horrible but I could have avoided a lot of unnecessary dental work if I had just taken better care of my teeth.

  19. This was mine too. My first relationship was a whole ptsd experience, and though I learned a lot from it, it still haunts me.

  20. Tell someone please. He would know what that means and I think it would save us from years of heartache.

  21. I hope you've gotten the help and support you need. If you need someone to talk to, feel free to DM me. 💌

  22. Can you imagine? A portal from the future rends the fabric of reality, you see yourself aged and stressed, expecting the most profound moment of your life and - “Nat has herpes”

  23. Would you have actually listened to yourself tho? I feel like if I said that to myself, I still couldn't be arsed

  24. I had a close work friend recently commit suicide and I blame JW 100%. She was a Jehovas Witness and had been struggling with mental health issues and had been closet drinking to cope. She went to her grandparents about it (also JW) and instead of offering her support, they reported her to the church and then began talks of excommunication. She lived with her grandparents, so excommunication would have left her homeless. A few days later, she left work on her lunch break and never came back. The next time anyone saw her, she was laying on the freeway, dead. She had jumped from the bridge above. Jehovas Witnesses is a cult.

  25. I wasn't told I was autistic until I was in my mid 30's, or that I had ADHD until I was 41. When I was a kid I was diagnosed with "lazy" and prescribed "punish him more" as a treatment. Spent my whole childhood thinking I was a disappointment and broken amd wrong.

  26. I hope you talk about it now. I was a flight nurse for a long time, drownings were always the hardest. In fact, I went on leave this year after our little county had 8 drownings in 6 weeks, 6/8 were minors, and I knew half the victims. Please share your story. In your own healing, that conversation could be the key to saving another person’s life. 💙💙💙💙

  27. Wow, I'm so sorry that happened to you and glad you're able to recognise this now as an adult. I hope you're in a much better place mentally now.

  28. I'm so sorry. Your friends parents were pretty shitty for not being honest about it and you were just a kid.

  29. Get that beer. I didn't stop for a beer on my way home. I was hit by a dump truck and paralyzed. If I stopped the truck and I wouldn't be there.

  30. Instead at every opportunity from the age of 13 on you drink every beer you see and develop an intense alcohol addiction.

  31. This is the most useful bitcoin advice on here. Just telling me to buy it, I'd have ended up cashing out at $100

  32. I feel this is like one of those weird time paradoxes where you mention "bitcoins" to your 13yo self who probably has a limited internet access and starts searching far and wide for these bitcoins, which don't exist yet.

  33. Imagine an adult who kind of looks like you strolling up, calling you autistic, then walking away with no explanation.

  34. This was mine too. I think it's the same for a lot of women. The idea of weight dominated my entire life up to being about 35. What a waste of time.

  35. I got pregnant by date rape at 17. When she was 8 months old a terminal brain tumor was discovered. I would do anything to have spared her that suffering. Her name was Jackie.

  36. I did go to art school, and I was going to tell myself the exact opposite: no art school! I wish I had done something practical like CS because it sucks to be financially unstable.

  37. I feel this one. I wish I would've know what grooming was before my 30s. I was 17 and my teacher was 20 years older than me. I thought I knew exactly what was going on and I carried the embarrassment and alienation of all of my friends and the community when he got caught with a 16 year old student who was also a SA survivor (from her step father). The comments people made about me changed who I am as a person forever. The worst were from his former students that I was attention seeking and a slut. How dare I lie about this and destroy his life and the lives of his two young daughters. I would've never gotten in a car with him alone if I had known what was being done to me.

  38. My grandfather always said to work as much as I can while I’m young and once I retire, then I can travel all I want. Guess what? He did just that except 2 years after he retired he died of cancer. He never travelled. This man never even went on a single vacation anywhere the entire time I knew him while he was alive which was about 20 years.

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